The Self-Validating Proposition

"All people who don't want to be controlled are criminals."

How does that work,then?
Well, the bastards who do the grinding(in a downwards direction) do it by ways which are supposed to be so subtle and apparently innocent, that any rejection looks ridiculous.
To carry this rejection further, into the physical realm, is supposed to make us victims actually criminal in the eyes of the law, leading to our utter destruction at the hands of 'society'.

The grinders therefore and thereafter feel validated, they feel that they are indeed what they are not, namely , respectable members of a civilised society.

Note the use of the word 'civilised'.
This denotes nothing but connotes the image of Jack Hawkins wearing a toga in a film about Imperial Rome.
Ah, yes. Civilised. And he gets so passionate about the fate of the slaves! But we all (are supposed to)know that this cod-civilisation is itself at the mercy of the 'way of the world' that the bastards claim to understand so well.
And so they also consider us their proteges while destroying our lives; we are under their 'protection', from the unknowable forces that they conjure into their imaginations (and,occasionally, our realities) at the drop of a foot.

We?
We are supposed to be so defeated that we become enthusiastic apologists for our own values and existence.
This is achieved by attacking us in 'unanswerable' ways; ways that deprive us without being anything to which we can reply.
They can keep up a co-dependent exchange indefinitely, since that validates them, but if we try to fight 'fire with fire' we still betray ourselves and they still win.

Like suicide-bombers of the soul, they even arrogate to theselves the presumption of our response, twisting our efforts to go on being normal into their property, a response we don't feel or make to the evil that they attempt.

Well, here is news for them.
We won't apologise for our values. And we will grow claws every bit as effective as theirs, moreso, since we are not playing a game of any sort, but are fighting for our free lives.

These means can be(in Britain) anything up to a good thumping, or as simple as a complaint to the landlord.
Oh, and once we recognise that everything they do is a lie(except for the malice), then we don't have to bother with their crazy ideas of our honour; we can trump it up a little.
Hell.
They might even feel aggrieved!