Bullies are commonly accused of also being cowards.It is a commonplace, something which is taken for granted. But is it true?
To paraphrase Billy Beck,"I won't be chained to someone elses psychosis."
They seek to batter you into submission without ever raising a fist. They do so by a system of noises, great and small, made at significant times, so that our outrage is drawn from us like the sting from a wasp;we choke on our own rage, always having only one other (instantaneous) option, the option of going out of our way to attack and physically stop them.
But this is where the cowardice comes in; they have the protection of the law, from our justice, and that is why they are cowards.
They create infinite trouble without danger, they assume, because they are protected by the laws which are supposed to stop us being attacked.
Of course, what they really want is to make us feel rage so much and so often, that in our (necessary) effort not to attack, we reach a stage of complete impotence, the effort to restrain ourselves causing our psychological integrity to wall us in.
It takes an effort of will to restore ourselves, mainly by working, but this should be remembered: if we ever once have attacked, the psychological strength exists to overturn any amount of this filth, and get angry again at a moment's notice.
And if we can do that, they are never safe.
9 comments:
I'll be considering this post for some time, VL. Nice work.
Okay, but 'attack' can mean any aggressive action taken in full consciousness of the violators guilt.
Expression of outrage can be as trivial as a kick up the arse, or a full blown brawling fireball of violence.
When you leave it until you are an adult, you have to choose your fight carefully.
Like Howard Roark blowing up Courtland!
Surely it is anger that 'they' want to induce, knowing albeit only instinctively that anger paraylyses the angry.
Isn't anger the debilitating enervating factor to be transcended rather than indulged?
A non responsive non anger actually drives the perpetrators mad.Anger in short is the wrong response to stress(evil) and the cause of mental illness, paranoia and schizophrenia.
You've said a mouthful,Nic.
You're right, except that it is a deficit of unexpressed anger which might so overload the mind as to cause mental illness;I should know.
What I meant by 'expression' was that if you construct a pattern in your mind, a psychological protoype, by choosing a defining moment of expression(kick up the arse), then you will thereafter find it possible to transcend anger without damage to oneself; both expression and non-expression are choices which must be made.
You must not blank out anger;an evasion like that will surely deprive you of your happiness, but you can certainly bend like a palm tree.
Your blog is the most novel I have encountered and compulsive reading although sometimes you lose me with your complexity.
I do believe anger is crippling and nearly always destructive and to consciously let it pass is to be totally immune to all the evil in the world.
Supression however, as you rightly say, is dangerous...
Nice of you to say so.
Some of my complexity is conjecture.
Much of my philosophy is an ongoing experiment.
It was just that one phrase which seemed similar to something I was saying at the time.
If you really want to paste up a link, post me the URL.
By the way, I got it from London Fog.
On second thoughts I removed the quote altogether.
Happy?
Changed my mind again;I've put the comment back in.
And no, I don't want to link.
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